Providing the appropriate support at the right time can be tricky for many parents. But even when we feel we failed at many parenting tasks, our children are still able to feel our love and care. Maybe it’s better to detach ourselves from all the struggle that parenting can bring, relax and reconnect with our child by simply talking to them with an open heart.
Relax and forgive yourself. You are doing your best.
The pressure of being there for our children is many times overwhelming and even paralyzing. So take a step back, take a deep breath and start where you are. You are a good parent, you are trying to do the best you can for the sake of your child. You are here, now, reading this, aren’t you?
The dynamics of the interaction you have with your child is complex and influenced by so many factors that you can’t constantly blame yourself for the things that go wrong. Children need all types of experiences in order to grow and learn. So learn how to embrace the good things that come along and use the difficult experiences as teaching opportunities.
Assign time that you spend with your child no matter what.
Talk to your child as often as you can, but in order to make sure you don’t miss important things from his life make sure you come up with a routine. For example you can have dinner together every evening. This way, even if your daily schedules are busy and you don’t get a chance to talk, you can talk about your day every evening.
Learn to read hidden messages.
Don’t wait for your child to ask for your attention. Learn to read his body language and constantly check how his day went, what he learned and what made an impression on him. Look at the little things and the things he truly enjoys. Those are the things that show you if he is happy and full of energy or not.
Be creative and build new ways to interact with your child.
You don’t need to ask your child directly about his mood or his activities. You can create a game night or go for a picnic and provide a relaxed environment where your child is more likely to be open and share his thoughts and feelings for you. Look closer at what he enjoys doing and incorporate those activities into your schedule.
Listen to your instinct. Listen to others too.
Trust your gut. Parents usually feel when something is off with their child. If you feel your child has some issues, try to explore it with him. Don’t force him to talk about the things that make him feel uncomfortable, but ask about his feelings in a gentle manner. Also, listen to those around you. They are in a more objective position and they might notice when your child is having a problem. Let the people you trust talk with your child, they might help him more than you realize.
Get help from a teacher or a child psychologist.
A teacher or a child psychologist can help your child and provide the support that he needs. They can also encourage him to talk to you. They can explain to your child that it’s safe to share his feelings with you and that it’s important to ask you for help when he needs. So taking your child to see a specialist should help you become closer to your child.