When someone lies to you, you feel that your trust is broken. Can you ever have faith in someone that chooses to tell a lie instead of the truth? What can you do when that person is your own child? An informed parent link you know by now that lying is inevitable. The reasons are vast and few of them are the following: an emotional battle, when they know they’ve done something wrong, they don’t want to get into trouble, get lie because they want to be accepted by others or to receive attention.
Before getting angry or saying things that you can later regret, read some ideas on how to deal with your lying teen. Magical things won’t happen by night, but patience, communication and love will help you get through it all.
It sounds wonderful to have an open relationship with your child but honest conversations aren’t easy or comfortable. Honesty is essential and your teen needs to feel that he can rely on your understanding and help. This is a good start for fewer lies, don’t you think?
Stop using traps
This strategy can make you look clever, but this is not the time to prove it. If you expect upfront communication, you need to be upfront yourself.
Kids grow up by witnessing their parent lie, as on average an adult tells one lie per 5 social interactions. Even if it’s a white lie intended to avoid conflict or not to hurt someone’s feelings, by the time they grow older lying becomes a second nature for them. So be careful how you act and what you say.
Say no to Anger
“I am too angry to discuss this right now.” This sentence is not a problem solver, but it can help you calm down and avoid saying things that can make the situation worse. Anger is destructive and you want to build a good realationshop with your teen.
Another word that suite perfectly to this idea is compromise. Some teens will refuse to have a sincere talk with their parents because they know there is no room for negotiation. This will lead to dishonesty and it will affect your child, the relationship you have and yourself.
Pay close attention
When you try to heal your headaches this will not solve the core problem. This applies also to the matter of lying. Instead of focusing on the lie, try to focus on the problem that your child has. Pay attention and discus the problems that are the cause of lying.
Discipline has its own way
The way parents respond to dishonesty can either encourage or discourage how truthful their teenager is in the future. If you are upfront with your teenager about the benefits of telling the truth or the consequences of lying, they will know what to expect when choosing one of the existing options.
No more labels
Instead of using the word “liar”, state that you know what the truth is. When young people are labeled they will tend to live up by the label, so try as much as possible to avoid labeling your teen.