The beginning of motherhood is not always rosy. Even if most mothers find themselves in their own bubble of infinite happiness immediately after birth, some find it hard to deal with the sudden black hole opening in front of them. The long expected event that was the birth of their baby has finally happened and instead of being crowned and celebrated with tears of joy, it is darkened by desperation and extreme unhappiness. If you just gave birth and don’t feel too well (to say the least), pay attention to what your mind and body are telling you and ask for help from your family, and also professional help. Here are 5 common signs of postpartum depression.
- You are unhappy no matter what. Unhappiness is a feeling most new mothers have once the baby blues hits. Yet this disappears in a few days, after the woman becomes more and more accustomed to the new baby, to his smell and his behavior. If this does not go away, problems might ensue, as the mom might lose focus from the baby. A cry for help towards your dear ones, your partner or even a therapist is the best idea in this case. You will get help in order to understand better what you are going through and to get over this as soon as you can.
- You don’t see yourself fit to be a parent. You can actually bet you are the worst mom the world has ever seen and you are seriously thinking you have made a huge mistake by bringing a baby into this mean and awful world. This is actually another sign that some chemical imbalance in your brain is affecting your behavior, but don’t worry, this can be solved with therapy and patience.
- You don’t want to see the baby, touch him or even hear him. You refuse to be near the baby and even breastfeed him in case he is not on formula. As long as you already suspect you are a victim of postpartum depression and it’s clear for you that you don’t want to have anything to do with the child you’ve just given birth to, seek the help of your partner first, to make sure someone close to you is watching over the child and making sure he is being fed and well taken care of. After that, you need to go and see a doctor to help yourself get better.
- You think suicide is an option. There’s no way to say this in a nicer manner: call your partner now, discuss these thoughts of yours, ask him to take full care of the baby and help you get professional guidance right away. No advice in the world and no care from friends or family can replace a treatment for such a problem.
- You cannot sleep. Even if the baby sleeps peacefully in his cot, you just can’t keep your eyes closed, as your mind wanders without any clear thoughts and filled with fears. Sleep patterns would indeed change once a newborn is welcomed into a family, yet if the baby sleeps and you cannot stop thinking about pessimistic things, this is much more serious than the regular start of life with a child. Tell your close ones about your problem and discuss it with a doctor who can give you a hand to surpass this horrible issue.
Postpartum depression is neither a lie or exaggeration, nor a joke. This is a serious problem that can affect your life irremediably, so don’t take any chance to find fixes on your own, but ask for help without shame. Once it will all be over you will see how important professional help and family support during such hard times is.